Renee Yvonne [00:00:01]:
Hey, everybody, it's Renee. Yvonne, and happy New year. Today is January 7th, and it is one day before my birthday, and I am excited about that, which is crazy because I'm getting older every minute, but we all are, right? But I just want to welcome you first to the Pleasure Years podcast. Thank you for all the new listeners and those of you that have been listening since I began this. I appreciate you listening to it, sharing it with your friends, and telling other people about it. And this is the podcast for people over 50 that still want to maintain a vibrant, exuberant, juicy, delicious sex life. And I want to help you do that. So I thought what I'd do is start out the year telling you a little bit about who I am, because I've been doing this work for about four, four and a half years, and I realized that I probably never told you how I got into this, and that's my bad.

Renee Yvonne [00:01:06]:
So let me start the year off by telling you that. So here's the story. About 10, 11, 12. Wow. Almost 13 years ago, I met this guy online, and we got into a relationship, and I found out that we were sexually incompatible. I think that's the best way I could say it. I was in a sexless relationship for nearly six years. And it's something that, you know, if you're online, you hear men complain about, you know, I didn't get any for two weeks.

Renee Yvonne [00:01:45]:
What should I do? And I didn't get any for a month. Well, six years is a long time to not be having sex. And so I didn't know what was wrong. Right. I just kept going to, you know, just trying to figure out what was going on. And I started googling some classes, and I took all kinds of classes. I took classes on yoni eggs and strengthening your pelvic floor and orgasms and blow jobs and shibari rope play and tantric massage. I was taking everything.

Renee Yvonne [00:02:18]:
I even took a class called cock worshiping. And, like, nothing was working. Like, just nothing. I was so frustrated. And after taking all these classes, I joined this group, this women's group. And it was a group of women who were, I would say, probably late 20s to late 50s, maybe a wide range of women. And I found out that I wasn't alone, that this was, like, unfortunately kind of common. Women were saying that they, you know, their husbands just weren't interested.

Renee Yvonne [00:02:58]:
They didn't know what to do about it. They weren't sure what was going on, and, you know, they were in it, and they weren't trying to find someone else or Leave. They were trying to figure out what was, you know, what the problem was. And for some it was menopause, and for some it was just stress. And what I found out is that for me, my. My partner was taking a medication that caused low libido. And it just kind of, you know, it hadn't dawned on me. I'd worked in pharmacy for nearly three decades, and I.

Renee Yvonne [00:03:35]:
That just didn't hit me like, oh, my God, that's what it is. You know? And it was a struggle. It was hard. And we. When I started talking with some of the women about it, we started, you know, trying to diagnose what was going on. A couple of them said to me, you know, Renee, maybe you should consider being a sex therapist or going back to school and getting your degree. And I knew for sure I didn't want to be a therapist. I didn't want to go back to school.

Renee Yvonne [00:04:07]:
Let me put it that way. I knew for sure I didn't want to go back to school. I didn't want any more student loans. And I was kind of sick of school in the sense of, like, a lot of theory, but nothing really practical. So I found a place that certified me as a certified sex counselor, and that was perfect for me. A lot of real world application, and that's what I wanted. And I finished school right at the height of lockdown in August of 2020. And it was actually a perfect time because everybody was home with their spouse, and they're like, what do we do now? We're home all the.

Renee Yvonne [00:04:44]:
And it was actually just a really good time to start that business. And so I've been doing this since 2020, since the lockdown, and it's been an incredible ride. Because what I've learned along the way is that sex is not just about the act itself. It's about the communication you have about your wants, your needs, and your desires with your partner. One of the other things that I've learned, and I stress a lot, is that sex isn't just about the penetrative act. If it's a heterosexual couple of, you know, just penetrating a person, it's about expanding your definition of pleasure. Because lots of things happen as we get older you get. It could be that your.

Renee Yvonne [00:05:34]:
Your body doesn't move the way it used to when you were in your 20s, or that you have chronic pain, or that you are on a medic that causes low libido, or maybe you are going through menopause and it's the hormonal changes are happening. Maybe you're going through andropause. A lot of people don't talk about that, but andropause is the male version of menopause. Men lose testosterone, their estrogen levels increase a little bit. I'm going to do another podcast on that because I know men are like, I don't have estrogen. You do a little bit. Not, you know, not a ton, but there is. And that's what gives men that kind of, you know, sometimes you get that belly get a little flabby than you used to.

Renee Yvonne [00:06:16]:
That's men going through andropause. And it happens sometimes it's stress related. So a whole lot of things happen to us as we get older that can put a damper on our sex drive. And no one talks about it. And that's why I'm here. I want to be the person, the go to person where I'm talking about this, where people feel comfortable talking about it. Our doctors don't even ask us. I mean, at least mine doesn't, unless I bring it up.

Renee Yvonne [00:06:46]:
But they don't typically come to you and say, so how's your sex life? Are you having a number of orgasms? You want, you know, how are things going? Like, they typically don't ask these questions, which is a shame because it's such a prime opportunity to get to know your patient better and on a deeper level. So, so that's what I'm doing. That's one of the reasons why I've. I'm changing the name from the Gen Sexologist to Pleasure X. I want to make sure that I am helping people where they are and dealing with the issues that come up that no one is discussing with them because a medication might not solve everything the way you think it will. A lot of people think, oh, I have erectile dysfunction. I'll just take, I'll just take Viagra or Cialis and it'll be great. And then they find out that maybe that's not it.

Renee Yvonne [00:07:39]:
Maybe there's deeper issues there that we need to work through. And then we could talk about how we can get an erection, keep an erection. There's a lot of things that, that keep people from having the sex life that they want. And they're also not considering expanding their definition to pleasure, which can include so many other things. It could include erotic massage. It might include a little bit of kink. It might include, you know, the penis worshiping, the vulva worshiping. It can include so many things that we, that we miss because we've gotten used to just being for Heterosexual sex.

Renee Yvonne [00:08:18]:
Penis and vagina, penis and vagina, penis and vagina. And if I don't get that, then it's not sex, and that just isn't true. I want to help people let go of that idea so that they can fully embrace all of the realms of pleasure that your body can handle and explore and enjoy. Okay, so that's my story that I wanted to share with you, that I understand when people talk about they're coming from a sexist relationship. I know what it's like when people say, you know, when people are having sex because they're bored and, like, I just need something new. I love my partner, but it's just. I want something different. I want you to understand.

Renee Yvonne [00:08:57]:
I know what it's like to be in chronic pain. I live with rheumatoid arthritis. My partner has had back injuries. And so we know what it's like to deal with chronic pain. And so how do you maintain a sex life when something is always hurting? Right. And so there's ways to deal with that. I'll be 54 tomorrow. And so, you know, one day I want to go through menopause.

Renee Yvonne [00:09:23]:
I hope some, but I'm in perimenopause right now. So, yes, I wake up in a hot sweat sometimes at night. And so there's all of these different things that we're going through. And I want people to know that, one, I understand. And two, that I want to help you navigate this because I fully believe that people want to have pleasurable lives. They want to experience as much pleasure as they can. They want to experience a sexual life that is vibrant and full. And I believe that pleasure never gets old.

Renee Yvonne [00:09:58]:
So I'd love to hear from, hear back from you if you have questions. I did this last week, but I'm going to continue to put this in my email because I'd love to hear these questions, and I'm going to be answering them either through my podcast or on my YouTube channel. I won't use your name or anything like that. I'll just do it as a random. As a anonymous question. But I'd love to hear your questions. If there's something you want to know about sexually that you've been kind of shy about asking, please feel free to fill out my form and tell me what you're looking for. What do you think I should focus on so I can make this pertinent to you? That's the first thing I want to want to say.

Renee Yvonne [00:10:36]:
And then secondly, I have a new offer that I'm going To that I'm doing. It's called pleasure prescriptions. It's my counseling sessions. And so what's going to happen is there's a 90 minute session. I'll do a little bit of teaching. We're going to talk about what's going on. I'm going to do one to three pleasure prescriptions. So just like your doctor would write a prescription for you, I'm going to do a prescription for you of how you can make whatever your situation is better and make it great for the both of you.

Renee Yvonne [00:11:08]:
I'm going to customize those to your particular issue and then we'll have a 30 day follow up call after that. So I'm going to be introducing that as well this month, but I just want you to have that on your radar. What I'm looking for before I fully launch this is I would love to have five people, preferably couples, but if you're not a couple, that's fine. But five people who want to test this out for me. I want to do a very, an introductory price for those people. And in exchange for the lower price, I need to have a testimonial from you. Okay. And some feedback.

Renee Yvonne [00:11:47]:
Like what could make it better? What would you like to see different? What did you love about it? That's what I'm looking for. So if that's you, please, I'll put a little form in there too. So I'll take the first people who come up with that. I'm working out the price. I'll have it in the email what the price will be because I'm still working on the price and what I want to charge for the introductory and I want to, I know what I want to charge for the full one, but I'm going to work out the introductory price. But that's what I'm looking for, is some feedback for that. So that's, that's my message for today. I hope you enjoy this podcast this week.

Renee Yvonne [00:12:23]:
Getting to know a little bit more about me. I'll share more about myself as I go on. But those are the two things I'm looking for right now is just feedback on questions and then feedback on this program if you'd like to sign up for. Okay. So in the meantime, I hope you all have an amazing day. In fact, what I'll do, I'll make that people I'm looking for. That'll be my birthday special. So because I haven't done a birthday special, I do have products workshops that I offer and I may, I'll put those on sale, too, for my birthday.

Renee Yvonne [00:12:53]:
And then I'll do this as a birthday special as well. So how about that? Everybody can celebrate. But in the meantime, I hope you all have a great, wonderful week and a happy New Year. I hope your new year is going well. It's starting out great. And I will talk to you next week. Thanks. Bye.